The Intimacy Intensive Series

Intimacy Intensives are offered to individuals or couples with complicated life stories, including family of origin trauma, extramarital affairs Rethinking Infidelity (TED2015 by Esther Perel), addictions, sexuality concerns and other sensitive issues. Intensives are booked for half or full-day sessions.

Should I stay or should I go?

The Intimacy Intensive focuses on naming the truth about a couple's relationship in order to decide whether the relationship can be worked on or not. If the relationship is workable, couples are guided through a process of learning new relational life skills. This helps them to reconnect and rebuild their relationship. If the relationship is unworkable, couples are guided through a process to end their relationship.

Please see Understanding Relationship Dynamics, an article co-written by Clare Mézes and Gail Winemaker, to get a snapshot of this intensive series.

Please watch Why We Pick Difficult Partners, The School of Life, 2018

Woman are unhappy in their marriages. They feel unheard and overburdened and live in a chronic state of slow-burn resentment. Terrence Real, 2002

Men are unhappy that the women they love are so unhappy with them. Following the script with which they've been raised, men feel bewildered, unappreciated, and betrayed. Terrence Real, 2002

Realize the malicious patterns in your relationship and learn how to break them by using new skills.

One of the most powerful art pieces from Burning Man: A sculpture of two adults after a disagreement, sitting with their backs to each other. Yet, the inner child in both of them simply wants to connect. Age has many beautiful gifts but one we could live without is the pride and resentment we hold onto when we have conflicts with others. The forgiving, free spirit of children is our true nature. Remember this when you feel stubborn.

The Parenting Intensive

Today's children are growing up on-line, living a fast-paced, high-stressed life that leads to problematic behaviours, (i.e. defiance, entitlement, addictions, and low self-esteem) and relationship issues with their parents. Learn how to help your children shift from destructive behaviours and negative outside influences to more meaningful family and social connections. Help your children to create enthusiasm for a positive outlook on the future.

Strengthen Your Child's Core!

Learn how to create a harmonious environment with mutual respect and trust in order to meet the needs of your child. Don't try to bend your child to your will. Clare will teach you how to let your children handle what they can in an age-appropriate manner. Clare's goal is to help you adopt the motto, "Never do for your child what he can do for himself." Intensives are booked for half or full-day sessions.

Boys learn that being a man means being stoic and tough, and disconnected from their own feelings and those of others. They lose their hearts by the age of 5.
 --J. Chu, 2000 

Girls learn that being a good woman means having to accomodate. They lose their voices by age 10-13.
 --Carol Gilligan, 1982