Clare Mézes

in association with The Relational Life Institute and Leading Edge Seminars announce

Toronto Event: Healing Trauma in Couples Therapy with Terry Real and Janina Fisher

Janina Fisher, PhD, and Terry Real, LICSW, share insights and practical interventions on working with couples struggling with the legacy of trauma in their relationship.

Janina Fisher's specialization in somatic approaches to treating trauma, attachment and shame is recognized as an important evolution of the work of her mentors and colleagues: Judith Herman, Bessel van der Kolk and Pat Ogden. Her neurobiological approaches to the legacy of trauma have helped therapists worldwide bring applied neuroscience into their everyday clinical practice.

Terry Real has transformed the understanding of what it means to be a male in our culture and also revolutionized therapeutic work with men beginning in 1997 with the publication of I Don't Want to Talk About It. He has gone on to develop Relational Life Therapy, a dynamic couples therapy approach that is now used by thousands of therapists worldwide, and he runs the Relational Life Therapy Institute, which trains professionals to use his approach.

Together, for the first time, Janina Fisher and Terry Real will present their shared insights and approaches to working with couples whose difficult histories present additional challenges to both the relationship and the therapeutic process.

Childhood trauma leaves survivors with a fundamental mistrust in the safety of relationships. As adults, survivors develop defenses against vulnerability, commitment and emotion-often shutting down or getting stuck in mutually escalating conflicts with their partner. This workshop will demonstrate two different styles of intervention with these clients. One will emphasize challenging the couple's ability to be emotionally authentic; the other will focus on the importance of somatic communication in helping couples connect.

These two days will feature a unique collaboration between two leading therapists known for their original thinking, effective innovations in psychotherapy and highly engaging and dynamic presentation styles.

Therapists will gain important new knowledge about the dynamics that make couples with trauma history the most difficult to help, as well as new tools that will greatly enhance their couples therapy repertoire.

You will learn how to:

  • Help partners identify the role of trauma in their troubled relationships
  • Challenge couples to move beyond their stories and automatic responses
  • Change the conversation to help the couple repair with new patterns of response
  • Use nonverbal communication to reduce conflict and connect safely
  • Use somatic awareness and movement to bring about peace
  • Evoke a couple's inherent capacity for authentic emotional connection and expression
NOTE!! This workshop has changed to live webinar format with on-demand access after the live broadcast

Leading Edge Seminars has reduced all Spring workshop rates by 50% and has moved all Spring workshops to live webinar format with on-demand access after the live broadcast date.

Wednesday, May 27 - Thursday, May 28, 2020
9:00 am to 4:40 pm


Past Toronto Event with Terry Real and Esther Perel

Narcissism & Infidelity:

An Integrative Approach To Couples Therapy
Two of the world's most forward thinkers on sexuality and relationships join together to offer you an exciting day exploring clinical perspectives and interventions for the really tough situations of couples struggling with desire, affairs and even divorce.

NARCISSISM: Conventional therapeutic practice focuses on helping people come up from the one down of shame. But many clients need help coming down from the one up of narcissism.

INFIDELITY: Affairs have been primarily framed in terms of Trauma and Betrayal. This workshop presents a dual perspective that embraces both, growth and expansion for one with Loss and betrayal for the other.

Narcissism and Cheating: a complex combination. Using case examples and hands on intervention we demonstrate how to integrate couple dynamics with "deep work" on the part of each individual.

  • Work with couples' vicious cycles and the underlying trauma that fuels them.
  • Use new tools to help couples in their seemingly hopeless crises, and make-or-break stalemates.
  • Design creative interventions to unlock erotic blocks stemming from shame, fear, guilt and trauma.
  • Help couples take emotional risks to open up sexual communication.
  • Rebalance power differentials in the couple.
  • Discover the motivations behind affairs and their possible meanings in different relationships, both heterosexual and gay.
  • Create a safe and non-judgmental therapeutic environment to work with secrets, confidentiality, transparency and truth telling.